Becoming a parent, I was very overwhelmed. So many parenting books, mom blogs, Pinterest pins, and advice coming out from the woodworks left and right. I would think I’d have something figured out, like our feeding schedule, but then read the next day something on how feeding schedules were an abomination to all parenting and children should only eat when they want to eat. But then another book disagrees with that, saying that letting your children lead gives them too much power and I will forever regret it because they will turn into power hungry minions.
And so I found myself busy with trying to keep up. Living a bit in fear, worried that I would somehow “mess up” this whole mom thing.
I had abandoned and not even thought about asking for God’s parenting help and advice. He does know everything about everything there is to know. Did you know that He included parenting advice in His own book?
“The righteous man walks in his integrity; His children are blessed after him.” ~ Proverbs 20:7
When we were designing our Father Bracelet Set, it took us a while to pick a verse that we really believed represented Fatherhood/Parenthood and the relationship between a child. We stumbled upon Proverbs 20:7 and thought, “This is a sweet verse! This is it!” But it really took some time and praying over God’s word, that the true meaning behind this particular passage began to shine through.
To put it simply, this verse is saying to us as fathers and mothers to live a God-filled and honest life. If, as parents, we do this, our children will follow in our steps.
When this finally came to light for me, it was like a lightbulb went off, and everything made sense. I didn’t have to keep up with the latest parenting trend and do what other parents were doing. What’s right for one family, might not be right for ours. All that God asks me, and of other fathers and mothers, to do is to live a life of honesty and to do all things with Him in mind and my children will grow up happy and filled with His love.
My feeding schedule is fine – as long as my children’s tummies are full and healthy. The way I put them to sleep is wonderful – we read a story together, we pray, and we cuddle until they drift off to sleep, and when I do this with a full, present, God-filled life, things usually go much smoother than not.
From what I understand, as long as we follow this simple guideline that has been laid out for us as parents, our children will be blessed, loved, and follow in our steps.
So, my challenge to you is to find the little moments in your day when you feel the need to be a “perfect parent” when, really, it’s overload. Take a step back, a big breath, and pray for God to fill you with His presence and to walk with you as you live an integrity(honest)-filled life. You’ll be amazed at how present He becomes in your day.
Ahhhhhhh! Can you breathe now?